All that? How about 10 years? Can't I just get a book instead?
Seriously though, I'd actually like to learn to be more assertive, if not agressive, and be humble (which is not quite the same thing as having low-self esteem!)
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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EP: Hey, I'm working on it. Gimme a little time. I learn fast.
jam: About 90/10? That wide of a gap? Interesting.
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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Lol!
I guess that, in that case, being an opinionated teen has it's place too, as long as i can bring myself to speak up. :P
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For those of you who do not believe in capital punishment...
by SixofNine inthat is, for those of you who actually think that executing children is wrong, what types of discipline do you find more effective?
i'm not a parent but when dealing with kids, i've seen that solitary confinements tend to make kids feel isolated and can really hurt them.
if they're near others and are checked up on frequently, it seems ok. but when they're completely ignored, that is just bad.
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Oh hahaha. *rolls eyes*
Yelling for the guard never works. It just makes them feel tougher. Then they think they can do ANYTHING they want, even steal your keys and try to escape.
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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Solomon: The funny thing is that people need to get a license to drive a car, but does someone want to have children? No classes required, no license, no training, etc. Everyone can do it without having to do absolutely anything else (except possess a pair of gonads, and get busy). Probably why everyone feels entitled to do so, huh? :)
Yup, I suppose you're right. It's quite interesting, and something I've thought about a lot. :)
@cofty: Wow, thanks for defending me! I couldn't sleep last night because this thread made me very stressed (yes, i get stressed quite easily)... but your post made me feel better. And I just want to say that I appreciate your reasonable, calm approach you've taken on this thread. You didn't let your emotions get the best of you like I did. I really admire that. How do you do it?
wasblind: Um, just another clarification: That is not what I was joking about. I was joking about not being psychic. I'm sure you didn't mean to take my words out of context, but you did misunderstand me. I never joked about anyone enjoying hitting children.
EP: Wow, you did a good thing (which obviously you know)! I'm afraid that if I ever see someone hitting a child like that, I will be too frightened to say anything. :(
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For those of you who do not believe in corporal punishment...
by Chemical Emotions inthat is, for those of you who actually think that hitting children is wrong, what types of discipline do you find more effective?
i'm not a parent but when dealing with kids, i've seen that time-outs tend to make kids feel isolated and can really hurt them.
if they're near others and are checked up on frequently, it seems ok. but when they're completely ignored, that is just bad.
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I just love your posts, still thinking. They almost made me cry (wich, believe it or not, is pretty hard to do). You are very wise imo.
BOTR: I do believe there are very rare exceptions. When a child is playing with fire, running into the street, flying by with knives, a slapped kid is better than a dead kid. Slapping may not be so onerous. It is on the road to beating, though. We tend to repeat what we learned as children. My rule would be no spanking....with the awareness, that life can't always be controlled.
I can understand that. I wouldn't smack a kid after I have him/her under control, BUT I do understand that, like slapping an out-of control, hysterical adult, it may be neccesary if you can't calm the kid down and they are about to harm themselves or someone else greatly.
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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Whoa whoa whoa...I never said you were a new parent. I'm just saying that new parents are more likely to make mistakes. I was just generalizing.I knew YOU weren't a new parent.
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For those of you who do not believe in corporal punishment...
by Chemical Emotions inthat is, for those of you who actually think that hitting children is wrong, what types of discipline do you find more effective?
i'm not a parent but when dealing with kids, i've seen that time-outs tend to make kids feel isolated and can really hurt them.
if they're near others and are checked up on frequently, it seems ok. but when they're completely ignored, that is just bad.
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Wow, this has turned into somewhat of a discussion about the wonderful benifits of hitting children. I am so dissapointed. IT IS OFF-TOPIC, people. I started this thread, and I don't want to throw up again while reading posts about hitting kids like I did with the other one. Stick to the TOPIC, PLEASE. I'm begging you.
I found that the counting worked with me, but I didn't like it. It annoyed me and left me feeling worried. For some kids it might work. For me, it got on my nerves, and scared me. Maybe it depends on how you do it.
Some young mommies don't have very good mommy stares. I guess that's a talent the needs to be developed with a lot of practice.
I have seen children almost hurt themselves be screaming so much. So although I understand the desire to want to let it go, perhaps it's not healthy?
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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I said that I was sure that you were a good parent. Good parents can do wrong things at times, correct? Especially new parents. It is my very strong opinion that spanking a kid is abhorently wrong. I said I was sure your kids are fine. They sound smart and nice.
But I don't think that it makes spanking ok.
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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Was did not understand one of my posts. I was just trying to explain it better. How is that beating a dead horse.
What the heck are you talking about? I just said I didn't know anything about being a parent. What are you saying all that for? You're acting like I'm trying to tell everyone exactly how to raise their kids. I'm just arguing ONE point while admmiting ignorance in virtually every other area. Why do you keep making fun of me? What am I doing wrong?